Our mental health ..! – Taghreed Ibrahim Al -Tasan
Taghreed Ibrahim Al -Tasan
“It is the little things that have the greatest affairs and the greatest danger.”
With this phrase, Fyodor Dostoyevsky picks up the essence of human relations as many have not done. The human being, although it seems a complex being, but what moves its depths often is not loud or glorious, but a passing word, a hesitant look, a silent position, or even the tone of one voice came out as usual.
In relationships, love does not suddenly grow, just as it does not die suddenly. Everything accumulates. It is noteworthy that this accumulation is not only made by major situations, but the small things – or what we prepare as well.
The word “thanks” when no one expects it, or its absence when it is waiting. A brief morning message, a dry voice tone, ignored for a personal occasion, delayed in response, or sudden and repeated interest without occasion … all do not pass without a trace.
Every small verb is interpreted. Each interpretation is interpreted according to the context, relationship, mood, and previous experience. Thus, small things turn into major messages.
One of them may say a passing group of joking, while the other party hears it as deferred insult. One of them may forget to ask about the condition of the other, while the opposite party feels that the relationship loses its meaning.
Not for anything, except because the small things are not small as we think.
In psychology, there is a concept known as “emotional accumulation”, where emotions that are not expressed or incomprehensible accumulate, and turn into difficulties that are difficult to fill, not because of a catastrophe that occurred, but rather because “a small thing” was not treated in its time.
Just as a single drop of water does not drown a boat, but if it is repeated every day, it may pierce wood and flood the compound.
Therefore, nothing goes without leaving an impact.
Either an effect that nourishes the relationship, or an effect whose structure is slowly wrapped.
Therefore, silence in a moment when speaking was expected, may be interpreted as a disturbance.
And attention in his time, as a late Kindam may not be forced to be forced.
What is the solution then?
Awareness.
Consciousness that small things are not in vain, and do not pass unnoticed. To weigh your words does not mean making, but nobility. To apologize at the error is not weak, but rather that the scar begins scratching. To reassure the other does not mean his doubt about you, but his desire for reassurance.
Relationships do not usually collapse with one blow, but with small cracks that accumulate without repair.
Let’s pay attention more, not to the storms, but to the spray that precedes it.
Let us believe in our details, and more care for what we are “trivial”, in life … nothing is trivial when it relates to the feelings of people.
Thus, small things not only hurt relationships, but may shake the entity of the soul themselves.
How much psychological health has collapsed, not because of a great shock, but rather because of small and repeated tanks: a harsh word that has not been suitable, permanent ignorance is incomplete, a repeated position that feels let down …
All are not seen with the eye, but they are stored in the soul, and the acts do inside until the soul withers or breaks.
Mental health is not a steel shield, but a gentle skin of feeling, needs care, kindness and attention to the details that “seem” simple.
The Lord of a small smile that restores what was destroyed, and the Lord of a unaware word destroys what was built in years.
Let us be sure not to be the “little thing” that one of them brought down while he was at the height of his possibility.
And to you, as much as we can, a nice detail in the lives of others, not another crack added to their cracks.!
